Broken Open

I read my first Elizabeth Lesser book, Broken Open, about 10 years ago when my marriage was in the beginning stages of the end.  I fell madly in love with her words. They struck me right in the feels and spoke perfectly what I had been unable to put into words myself.  I went on to buy The Seeker’s Guide by Lesser as well, but it didn’t resonate with me at the time, it was like it was written in a foreign language, so I put it aside.  A year later, I saw it sitting there as I was walking outside to enjoy the spring weather the best way I know how….with hot tea and a book! As I began reading the book this time, every. single. word was exactly what I needed to hear. I now consider it my bible. Nearly every page is dog eared/highlighted/written in….talk about getting the lesson when you’re ready to learn!

Fast forward through a few more self-help books, a handful of years, lots of tears and several relationships. I’ve been divorced 3 years but just now really grasping the meaning of being broken open.  

My most recent relationship was without a doubt the most intense one of my life.  It was a short one, in the grand scheme of things, only a year and 3 months, but the depth of love I gave and felt were unmatched.  He was my home.  He was my “lobster” (supposedly they mate for life….or one year and 3 months in this case) ;) He was the ever elusive “one” that we all seek on some level. 

Or so I thought.

Without going into much detail, that relationship came to an extremely abrupt end.  Not only did it end unexpectedly, he was in a “facebook official” relationship merely 10 days later.  Believe me, I would love to just rant and rant about my feelings towards that situation, but that’s not the point of this writing today. Perhaps I’ll save that for another time.  :)

Today I want to focus on the being broken open part of this lesson.  And it is a lesson. The very best, most magical lesson I could have ever asked for.  It’s so cliche, but you really do find the blessing in the breaking.  Because my ex was my life…my future…when he was no longer there, I truly believe I died in some way.  I actually did pray for death for several days.  Dramatic much?  But really….my heart just gave up.  It went black.  I was never going to love again. I no longer believed in love or “the one”. In fact the thought of all that made me sick to my stomach.  I cried and ached and yelled and hated and grasped at ANY form of reality that could explain any of this. But in the end…there was nothing.  I was dead inside.  I was broken.  

Until…I broke WIDE OPEN.  

You see, there comes a moment during a painful time where you have to choose.  You choose to die and give up or you choose to live the brightest you ever could!  I dug deep. I turned to christian music for the first time in years. Not because I was specifically looking for God but because all the other dumb stations were about dating and love and putting a ring on it and that was just too barf-orama for me during that time.

The first song I heard was one by Casting Crowns called Just be held.  The lyrics that grabbed me and shook me awake were:

“So when you're on your knees and answers seem so far away

You're not alone, stop holding on and just be held

Your world's not falling apart, it's falling into place

I'm on the throne, stop holding on and just be held”

Man.  

I was vacuuming at the time. I remember it clearly.  I stopped dead in my tracks and just bawled my fool head off.  CLEAR OFF.  Bawled it right off my body.  I let the words sink in.  My world wasn’t falling apart….it was falling into place.  And i just needed to let GOD hold me.  And lemme tell ya…until then I was not exactly a “God person”.  Sure I sorta believed but it wasn’t until that moment that I accepted without any doubt whatsoever that he was there. And he was holding my broken pieces for me…waiting for me to be ready to be whole again.

Fast forward 7 months and not only have I picked those pieces up, I have fused them back together with the shiniest, most magical love of all time.  I finally found “the one” and it’s not who I ever expected.  But it’s exactly who I needed.

I personally believe that God is inside each of us, so when I fell in love with God again, I also fell in love with myself for the first time. You see, I had to…LITERALLY HAD TO… go through that amazing relationship and have it end in that EXACT SAME WAY for me to break apart and crack so open that all of me spilled out onto the floor so I could see myself for the very first time.  For really real.  

For realzies.

I saw the crazy. I saw the passion. I saw the “over-thinker” and the woman. I saw the child and the lover and I saw the real me and I fell madly in love with every single bit.  How could I not?  I’m the only me I have.  

Being Broken Open was the greatest gift of my life. Things are much different now. I feel like I was reborn.  I walk through the world much more aware of my feelings and I’m much more sensitive to emotions. I guard my heart a little more. I protect myself from negative people and people who want to use me for my good.  I feel more connected to this world and yet up above it at the same time.  I’m thankful for my journey and feel like the luckiest girl alive.  

I hope your breakdowns bring you blessings too. xoxo

The wonky (but authentic) nutritionist.

Y'all already know I'm a nutritionist.  That's not a surprise.  But there's lots of things about me that you don't know. Like my love for fruity pebbles, for instance.

<insert gasps, shock, and horror>

Yes, you read that correctly.  A nutritionist....who also loves junk food.  On occasion, people, settle down.  ;) 

You can throw a dart and find a "perfect" nutritionist.

You can see super skinny, salad eating health coaches all day long, if ya search the right hashtags. 

But between you and me…I’m kinda over that.  

And I don't believe in it anyway. It's fake and unrealistic and honestly, potentially damaging. We find ourselves striving to be PERFECT like our favorite health gurus, but I gotta tell ya....even they aren't practicing what they preach as often as you think. They just hide it better.  Trust me.

Of course, I too have had many days where I caved into "oh dear god my life is a mess so let's eat a big mac and pretend it will all go away" but those don't make it to social media. Because that would be wrong.  

Right? 

I mean, a nutritionist...who also loves junk food.  On occasion.  ;) That's unacceptable. That's inconceivable. 

Sooo, I marched to the tune of those other drummers, so as not to upset the masses. I put on my nutritionist hat and said, "Oh, but look at this here perfect, healthy meal!” instead of fessing up to my fast food faileo. I tried to be what I thought I was supposed to be. 

But between you and me, I'm kinda over that. 

I’m ready to let my freaky foodie flag fly once and for all. ;) I’ll be bringing you a nutritionist’s eye view on all my food adventures.  If it's a bowl of fruity pebbles, so be it. If it's about the delightful quinoa rosemary salad I just whipped up on a whim, darn tootin! If it's a flopped batch of macarons fresh from the oven, woohoo! If it’s a vacation to a new city and all the fun tasty treats I experience there…even bettah! I’ll put my own unique “Whole to Healthy” spin on it, but what I won't be doing...pretending to be something I'm not...trying to fit into a weird mold that is probably in my own head.

First of all, I don't deserve to live a life that’s not authentic in ALL aspects of my life.  And you don't deserve a half-assed human masquerading as a full assed nutritionist.  So to speak.  ;) 

I am extremely knowledgable in nutrition. I am an expert at making healthy meals taste and look AMAZING.  I know my way around the kitchen, and I have proven myself many times as a healer of sorts.  But I am so much more, and you are so much more. Why stop at just the “good” stuff? Why not revel in all the glory of the messy disasters too? Besides… your nutrition is only PART of what makes you healthy.  It's only a FRACTION of what makes you WHOLE.  Our total health is complicated and messy and wonderful, just like life, and I want to be along for YOUR ride.  I want to help you find that MIND.BODY.SOUL balance that seems illusive but is just around the corner, my friends.  

My "title" as nutritionist is only a tiny bit of what makes me a human. I hope you’ll see that my realness is just what you’ve been needing.  That I can also be a friend.  A coach.  An inspiration to authenticity. 

I have faults. I have issues. I have passions that may not make sense. And I love fruity pebbles as well as roasted parsnips and kale chips.  

I will write all my posts from the perspective of healing and wholeness, and my favorite emotion: happiness.  Because regardless of where you are now or where you want to go, the end destination is always happiness.  And we will get there together, through the wonky, the emotional, the ups the downs, the cheetos, the kale smoothies....all of it.  Because our lives are complicated and messy but oh what fun it will be to feed our happy and find HEALTH THROUGH HAPPINESS. And health through authenticity.

If any of this resonated with you...stay tuned. I've got a few fun tricks up my sleeve. If it didn't, that's fine too.  I want you to find the nutritionist/guru/healer that speaks to you MOST.  Even if (especially if!) that ends up being yourself. :)

I’d love for you to leave a comment!  And, if you'd like to be interviewed for my new PODCAST....whether you're just a regular ol’ health seeking foodie, or a fellow nutritionist with a sweet tooth...I wanna chat!  Let's get this conversation started and flip this whole nutrition thing on it's head.  

Because between you and me....I'm just gettin started.  xoxo